What do you picture when you hear the word “class”?
If a man is described as “classy,” what would he look like in your mind’s eye?
Most of the time, gentlemen with slicked back hair and thousand-dollar suits from old Hollywood movies come to mind. But what makes those men so classy?
Class is all about poise. It’s the way you hold yourself and treat others that determines whether or not you have class, and whether or not you have class ultimately determines the way women will feel about you.
Do you want to captivate that woman you’ve had your eye on? Do you want to sweep her off her feet and impress her with your elegant charm? Well, these days, it all starts with a few well-planned texts.
8 Great Tips on Flirting with a Girl Over Text (with class)
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Follow these 8 great tips to keep your text conversations calm, cool, and classy. You’ll be on your way to winning her heart in no time.
1. Confidence is Key
This is a no-brainer! Confidence is always key in romantic relationships. You could have a face that only a mother could love, but with top-notch confidence in your tool belt, women will find you ridiculously attractive.
In the world of text flirting, the opposite of confidence is desperation. When texting an amazing woman, it’s tempting to put everything on the table. Afterall, texting someone you really like is super exciting. It can be hard to remember that you need to set boundaries for yourself, or else you risk scaring her away.
To show off your confidence through text messages, just act naturally. Text her as if you were talking to her face-to-face. Joke around with her to lighten the mood, ask her thoughtful questions, and don’t be afraid to tell her a few things about yourself if the opportunity arises.
Texting gives you the opportunity to think before you “speak.” Use the time to your advantage. Put your best foot forward, and don’t look back!
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2. Display Your Intelligence with Well-Planned Texts!
Women love intelligent men. Luckily, it’s easy to show off your intellect through text.
While it’s great to talk to her about your hobbies, skills, abilities, and passions, being intelligent also means that you’re a good listener. So, when she tells you something about herself, make sure you remember it. You can always make a callback to something she mentioned about herself earlier to let her know that you’re picking up everything she’s putting down.
More obvious ways to show your intelligence through text is to text with purpose. In other words, don’t send texts without meaning! Ask a question, reveal something new about yourself, make her laugh, etc. Don’t send a text without knowing what kind of reaction you’re going for.
3. Maintain Your Composure to Exhibit Maturity
Joking around and being playful through text is a great way to display confidence and charm, but do it too much and she’ll think you’re immature.
Women love men who can let loose every once in a while, but who are put-together and mature the rest of the time. So, keep the bathroom humor to a minimum — on second thought, stay away from it completely! And that includes being too sexually explicit. (Leave something for the imagination!)
To really be mature through text, be open to all kinds of conversations — the light and the heavy. And if things don’t go your way, whether she declined your date suggestion, or isn’t responding to your messages, remember to keep your cool.
Lashing out and goofing off are two sure-fire ways to kill a text conversation with a woman.
4. Show Her You’re Serious by Welcoming Deep Conversation
Flirting over text should mostly be made up of light, fun banter. But every once in a while, mix things up with personal questions. A woman won’t think you’re serious about forming a relationship with her if all you do is send short, silly texts.
Show her that you’re serious by asking her things about herself and remembering details to what she shared with you. Of course, asking too many personal questions can make her go from feeling cared for and listened to, to creeped out. So, let her lead the conversation instead.
Start off an interesting conversation by asking things like, “What’s on your bucket list?”, and “Where is the one place you’ve always dreamed of visiting”. Once she responds, ask follow-up questions to keep the conversation flowing. Follow her lead and see where the texts take you.
Make sure that you respond to the questions, too, even if she doesn’t ask you anything back. You don’t want her to feel like you’re quizzing her!
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5. Give Her Thoughtful Compliments
People love being complimented. It’s just a fact of life. No matter who you are, knowing that someone notices and likes something about you is enough to brighten your mood and make your day.
When talking to a woman, giving her genuine compliments is huge. But what should you compliment her about?
Women get complimented a lot, so you want to make sure that your compliments stand out from the rest. Instead of complimenting the obvious things like her hair, her eyes, her smile, or her taste in clothes, compliment something that most people wouldn’t notice about her.
The more specific the compliment, the better. Maybe you like the way she uses emojis in her texts. Maybe you find a hobby of hers to be really interesting. Maybe her work ethic is something you find admirable. Maybe she has a quirky fashion sense that makes her stand out from other women. Or she just radiates kindness and positivity. Pick up on what makes her unique and let her know that you have noticed.
Compliments are great, but don’t dish them out all the time. Make your compliments really mean something. The best way to do that is to compliment from the heart.
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6. Include Her Name in a Text
One way to tell if someone likes you is to see if they use your name a lot when they speak to you. At the same time, when someone uses your name when they talk to you, there’s a higher chance that you’ll fall in love with them. Use this to your advantage whether speaking in-person, or through text.
A simple “Hey (name), how are you?” or “That’s such a good point, (name)” is enough to catch her attention while staying subtle.
Including a woman’s name in a text takes the message from being drab to being eye-catching and sophisticated. But keep in mind that, like over-complimenting, if you overuse a woman’s name in a text conversation, it can get a bit jarring.
When you include her name in a text occasionally, it will show her that 1. you’re interested in her romantically and 2. you actually know her name (trust me, that’s already better than some men she’s spoken to).
7. Don’t Be Afraid to Have a Sense of Humor
One of the most important aspects of flirting is having a good sense of humor. Being able to laugh at yourself is a great way to rid the relationship of awkwardness, and lets the other person know that you’re laid back and confident enough to be the butt of a joke.
Playfully teasing a woman is also a great way to flirt. Give her a fun nickname, start a competition with her over something silly, or joke about something that makes her unique. Make sure that when you turn the jokes onto her, you keep your tone laid back and don’t forget to use emojis!
8. Be Polite – Show Her that Chivalry isn’t Dead
Last but certainly not least, remember to always be polite! Being classy means that you always act like a gentleman. Think back to those old Hollywood movie stars. How did they act around women?
Let me give you a hint, they would never send a string of one-word texts. Consider her schedule, too. Don’t text her when you know she’s busy or force a conversation when she is in a bad mood. And, the holy grail, be patient if she doesn’t respond right away.
Being classy is all about maturity, sophistication, and good manners. If you put your best self forward in your texts, you’re giving yourself the best chance at starting a fulfilling relationship. So, follow the tips above to turn your dry texts into flirty ones that will lead you on the way to love.
Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping others learn the art of flirty texting.
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