You can think of yourself as a perceptive guy, but it can still be pretty hard to figure out whether a girl likes you or not. After all, it might just be her nature to be nice, candid, or even a little flirty.
The last thing you want is to incorrectly assume her intentions because as a gentleman, you don’t want to step on her boundaries. And of course, no man wants to find himself in the friend zone.
So, let’s figure it out together…
How to Know if a Girl Likes You
In this article, I’ll give you two dozen signs to guide you on how to tell if a girl likes you and may be hiding it.
1. She’s easy to please
A girl who is into you will be very interested in whatever you say or do. It doesn’t take much for you to impress her, or catch her attention.
You don’t even have to be that good at what you’re doing—what matters is that it’s from you. Make a sketch of a cat for her and she’ll hold it close to her heart. Recommend her a movie and she’ll gush over it the next time you meet.
She cherishes the many small favors you do for her, and looks past the mistakes you make. She’s lovestruck, and she might not even know it.
2. She always finds a way to be near you
You know that she’s busy, but she somehow manages to log in to your group chat and chat with you on the side. She needs to finish something by Monday, so she’s working on it beside you.
And it’s not just that. It would also show in her being willing to come to events that she clearly wouldn’t go to otherwise. For example, if you told her that you’ll be going to a concert you like, then she’ll be there even if the band isn’t her type.
She longs to be close to you, so it doesn’t matter even if the odds are stacked against her. She somehow manages to find a way to be in your presence, be it in person or over the internet.
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3. She laughs at even your dumbest jokes
She giggles when you drop a joke, no matter how good or bad it is.
All your other friends might roll their eyes at you, but you somehow manage to get a chuckle out of her every time.
There’s a little saying that goes “if you want a woman’s heart, make her laugh.” And not only is it true, but it also works the other way around.
It means that she’s comfortable and at ease around you. It could be because of how compatible you are, or maybe because she’s just that madly in love with you.
4. She can’t keep her eyes off of you
She keeps glancing at you when you’re in the same space together. She stares at you a bit too long, a bit too intently for her gaze to be simply “friendly.”
You swear to god that it’s almost like she’s trying to undress you with her eyes. That, or she’s staring straight into your soul.
Flirty eye contact is one of the top physical signs a woman is interested in you. It’s not always that easy to identify, given how most gazes are basically “harmless,” but the Don Juans among us can sense this right away.
Give her back the same kind of stare she gives you to see how far eye contact will take both of you.
5. She gets playful and touchy with you
She touches your arm or brushes her foot against yours when she talks. She gives you a hug and a pat without thinking about it.
And somehow she manages to brush against you by accident almost every time she walks by. It’s almost as if she’s doing it on purpose.
And that’s probably because she likes you. She might not even be aware of it, but her body is drawn to yours, and she just ends up touching you and bumping into you without thinking.
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6. She asks for your help
She’s been asking you for favors big and small—she needs guidance for her paper, she asks for your advice on how to turn down a guy. It’s become too obvious you’re even starting to wonder if she’s just doing it as an excuse to be together.
Well, if she’s showing most of the signs in this list, you’re probably right.
Women—or at least the ones who take dating and online dating seriously— know how men want to feel needed.
When she asks for your help, it’s possible that she just wants to trigger this primal desire in you. She wants to play “damsel in distress” so you’ll subconsciously like her. Besides, it’s a great way for you to spend time together.
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7. Her mood changes when you’re around
Let’s say she’s bored and quiet all morning. But then the moment you arrive, she transforms into a bubbly girl brimming with life.
Or let’s say she’s talking a lot. When you enter a room, she suddenly gets quiet. She even seems a little annoyed by your presence.
Well, she’s probably nervous. She likes you so much that she doesn’t know how to act when you’re around.
Another reason is that she wants to catch your attention. She knows being cheerful or extra quiet can both make you pay a closer look at her.
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8. She gets self-conscious
You can feel her tense up when you’re near. She fidgets, scratches her head, straightens up her shirt, and twines her fingers.
And the more time you spend together, the more obvious it is that she’s just one big bundle of nerves.
It’s very likely that she’s infatuated with you.
The reason why she’s like this is because she’s hyper-aware of herself in your presence. It makes her worry about a lot of things—“Does my hair look good?”, “Is my breath okay?”, “Can he already tell that I like him?!”
She probably feels bad that she’s this way, and will beat herself up when she’s alone for acting this way around you.
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9. She mirrors your actions
You cross your arms and smile, and she does exactly the same thing at the same time. You give her a nod, and she tips her head in return.
But it’s probably intentional. I mean, it would be strange to actively imitate the gestures of another person.
What’s probably happening can be explained by the psychological concept called mirroring. It’s the subconscious replication of another person’s body language to build a connection. We all do it in our everyday interactions but it’s more apparent when we’re talking to someone we want to connect with on a deeper level.
If you feel good around her, it could be because she’s been doing this. Even if you haven’t been paying attention to it as it happens, your subconscious will have already noticed and interpreted it as it happens.
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10. She always “gets” you
Others often misunderstand you, and many of your interactions with other people have you trying to explain yourself just to be understood. But this girl, somehow just gets you.
You don’t feel the need to elaborate, because for once you’ve found someone who speaks your language.
And it’s not like she’s just faking it or just nodding along either, because she isn’t just there to listen. She actually engages with you and shows that she understands.
It won’t be a surprise if this girl would be your “ride or die” one day because not only does she understand how your mind works, she admires it.
11. She doesn’t leave you hanging when texting
This is probably one of the most obvious signs that a girl likes you over text.
She won’t keep you waiting. In fact, she’s very eager to keep the conversation going even after midnight.
Sure, it’s possible that she’s just nice and she does it to everyone, but if she outright tells you that she’s not a “texty” person or that you don’t see her on her phone always and yet, she always manages to reply to your messages?
Then don’t be silly. Of course, she likes you. Or at the very least, she’s very interested in you. No woman would keep talking to a guy she doesn’t like.
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12. Her friends pay more attention to you
You can read quite a bit about a person from the way her friends act.
If she’s been telling them about you, it’s very likely that at least one of them will check you out. They will wonder “hmmm, what did our friend see in this guy?” or “are they really a good match?”.
So they’ll try to figure out just what kind of person you are and will try to see what you’ve been up to in real life and in social media.
Some might even drop all subtlety and outright follow or try to send you a friend request. And if they see you flirting with someone else… then it’s very likely that she’ll hear about it.
13. Her friends stop talking when you’re near
This might seem ominous at first. The obvious conclusion is that maybe they were talking about you, and didn’t want to have you catching their conversation.
But gossip isn’t necessarily bad. Perhaps they were talking to each other about how good you are for their friend, and they simply feel awkward about having you hear that praise.
Whatever they might be talking about, it’s a definite sign that you’re someone to their friend. And it doesn’t even have to be because their friend told them—sometimes friends can figure people’s feelings out without being told about it!
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14. She tries to match your interests
You told her you like tennis. A week later, she comes at you with a racket in hand and a request to teach her more about the game.
Or perhaps you told her that you like jazz, so she asks for recommendations and then listens to them at her office.
She pays close attention to the things you tell her—especially the things you like—and you can see her geeking out on the same things.
She’s doing this so you have things in common to talk about…because of course, she likes you.
15. She can’t stare at you for too long
I know I mentioned that a girl who likes you would stare at you. But do stare back at her and she’d be the first one to look away.
Well (drumroll please), that’s because she’s probably crushing on you. In fact, looking at you and then looking away is one of the early signs a woman likes you.
She looks at you because she can’t help but want to know you more, and looks away because she doesn’t know you that well and doesn’t want to be caught staring.
After all, staring is a sign of attraction, and she might be concerned about creeping you out or being too obvious with her feelings.
16. She knows a lot of things about you
You didn’t tell her anything so you’re surprised that she knows some things about you.
She asks “So how’s your trip to Peru?” when you only told your close friends about it. Or she says “Hey, I bought some mac and cheese. It’s your favorite, right?”, when you never told her this fact.
Chances are, she probably scrolls around your feed and asks around to know you better. And of course, she pays extra attention to you in real life.
And yet as discreet as she might think she is, she’ll still end up knowing a bit more than anyone else should.
Point it out to her and she’d blush and feel awkward. You caught her in the act, and you now know that she really likes you.
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17. She pays attention to your quirks
A girl who likes you notices the things about you that not everybody notices.
She pays attention to how you do things—from the way you wince when you sip your hot coffee, to your habit of tapping your arms on your things when you’re stressed.
She finds your quirks adorable and she’d find a way to tell you about it. She might say “You’re like a baby when you drink coffee.”
And when you start to get “cute” to her eyes, she probably likes you.
18. She posts about the stuff you have in common
I mentioned earlier that a girl who likes you would be interested in the things you’re interested in. And she won’t stop there!
She will highlight the things you have in common—interests included—so you’ll notice just how compatible you are. And of course, so you’ll comment, send a message, or talk about it in real life.
If you’re both passionate about Abortion Rights, she’ll post about it and even tag you or send you a message with a link to the campaign.
If you’re both into dogs and you talked about it earlier today, she posts about it while your convo is still fresh, hoping this small connection would lead to something bigger.
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19. She tries to stand out in a group
She laughs loudly when you’re around. She’d even glance at you to check if you’re looking at her while she’s laughing.
When you’re in a group, she finds a way to talk so you’ll notice her and hopefully think she’s clever.
Yes, a woman in love can be a little desperate. But aren’t we all like that?
She tries to shine and stand out when she’s with other people not for them to like her, but for you to look at her and approach her.
20. She reciprocates your advances
When you’re with a girl who likes you, you get back what you give—and more.
There isn’t any dead air between the two of you when you’re together, and you don’t feel like you have to work hard just to keep the conversation going.
She’d eagerly engage with you. Laughing, saying jokes, answering your questions and asking her own in turn.
And when you try to make her blush, she sees no issue in flirting right back. She might even flirt back harder and leave you a stuttering mess.
A woman who likes you will show clear interest. She doesn’t see any point why she should deprive herself from having a good time with you.
21. She jokes about how hot she thinks you are
It’s not always the most obvious, because she’ll probably try to deflect it by removing herself from the picture… but, people (especially girls who like you) don’t simply say things out of nowhere.
For example, she might say “geez, you’re so hot you’d light the whole city on fire” or she might see someone try flirting with you and she’d go “dang, look at you! A real casanova!”
See, if she jokes about how hot you are in her eyes, that’s probably because she actually does think you’re hot.
A couple of times might just be her joshing around, but if it’s consistent… she definitely is trying to get a point across.
22. She begins to show jealous behavior
A sure sign that a girl likes you, you may notice that she becomes protective of you and shows emotional reactions like anxiety or insecurity when you interact with other potential romantic interests. This behavior suggests she cares deeply about your attention and affection and is afraid of losing it to another girl.
Jealousy also manifests itself in the form of competitiveness. She may engage in subtle competition with others who show interest in you. This competitive behavior can be a way of trying to outshine or outperform other women in order to secure your undivided attention.
23. She rushes to you for “comfort”
She wastes no time in rushing to you whenever there’s something bothering her and she just needs a little… company.
For example, she might blow up your inbox with messages about how horrible her day had been, and complain about how her coworkers pissed her off. If you’re co-workers, she might go to you when she’s about to break down and ask for a hug.
It’s possible that she really sees you as a friend, but it’s also possible she’s intentionally doing it because it’s a good excuse to be closer to you.
24. She goes all in for you
All of the things mentioned here don’t mean much if she doesn’t do it to you, and you alone.
For example, if she is just a naturally touchy person, her touching you doesn’t really mean that much. And if it’s just in her nature to respond to people’s texts ASAP, then there’s nothing special about her answering you immediately.
In such cases, these instead count as one of the signs a girl likes you as a friend.
But if she does these things only to you—to the point that your friends and colleagues notice it—then this girl probably likes you more than you know.
She might even be impatient, waiting for you to make the first move because she’s been sending you these “like signals” for a while now.
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These 24 things listed in the article are good signs to go by if you want to gauge a girl’s interest in you.
Just one of these might not be enough for you to come to a conclusion. But if she ticks off at least three signs, then you can be sure that she’s into you. And, of course, the more the better.
But just because you figured out she’s into you doesn’t mean you can just make your move straight away. No, to be a real gentleman you need to approach her at her own pace and meet her in the middle.
Which of these signs have you overlooked in the past?
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Looking forward to seeing you in there.